WE FELL IN LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT

   I have always pondered on that phrase. Some people swear by it. That they met someone without even hearing the person say a word, they just knew “I will love this person forever”.

   As usual, these are my thoughts. There are different types of love, ‘Eros’ not ‘Agape’, ‘Familial’ nor is ’Phileo’ my target here.

   The love at first sight thing makes no sense. Ok, maybe out of excitement of trying to explain what they felt when they laid eyes on that person, they tagged it as love.

   Love is an action verb and not a feeling. How do you sight someone from across the room without knowing if you have the same values, principles, if the person is a douche-bag, lazy, what they do, how they’d treat you, who they are in their spirit, soul, etc., you carry your heart which should be guarded, carry your trust which should be earned and give it to them just like that? Oh, you don’t even know if they’d love you right, same way or are minutely interested, you throw the love word at them.

   Ok, maybe I’m rigid but the word ‘Love’ is a very heavy word and shouldn’t be used like any other word, like it has no meaning.

   Yes, you see someone across the room, you could feel an attraction, lust, likeness for their appearance or voice, some connection, a stirring in your soul, you could look at them and think, “I like. I don’t mind dating someone like this or being with someone like this forever”. After that thought you should meet them and get to know the person first, via conversations and other things then with more info you can choose to love the person. Love is a choice; I have seen you in all your glory, good and bad etc. and I choose you and you alone forever with my body, soul and spirit”. It’s not just based on feelings.

   I don’t think love at first sight, without the person even saying a word or some form of convo is love.

   Love at first sight, I don’t believe it. People just confuse the butterfly in their bellies, the drum-roll in their hearts, the imaginations in their heads, the intense feelings and the stirring in their private regions for love when their gaze falls on someone of the opposite sex for the first time.

    In most cases I have seen and heard, the same people that fell in love at first sight don’t even get past dating or they get married in months then the chemicals and hormones that was keeping them in their feelings die then they begin to see all the faults they never saw in their love at first sight object. Next, they start singing ‘Love is blind’ that ‘Love’ deceived them.

   Even if it is real, how do you let your emotions control you? Please, get to know the person first before it turns out you love a lion thinking it’s the dove your heart saw.

   People who meet each other and feel something that transcends sex and lust for each other on an equal ratio of some sort are like a pin in a haystack.

    Don’t go falling into an unrequited love scenario. Love is not a feeling. What you feel is lust, attraction or some connection not love. Please, respect the word ‘Love’. It could be ‘attraction at first sight’, ‘Lust at first sight’, ‘connection at first sight’, etc. not ‘Love at first sight’.

Well, I have never experienced it. Have you and how did it end?

Thank you for reading my thoughts. What are yours?

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